April 19, 2019

Is it truthful?
Is it necessary?
Is it kind?
Rumi asked

If I were to honestly answer
these three questions
I would rarely communicate
with others, especially
those with whom I disagree.

While I am good at listening
to others with the grace of God,
I question whether I speak
when I should be silent.
Do I take the time to speak
my truth in a way that is loving?
What makes it necessary
Whose truth?
What is kind?

If I had to physically move
through three gates before speaking
would I have the energy to speak.
Perhaps I should consider how important
it is for me to speak my truth
and if so wait until I can speak them
kindly and with love.
Until then I will sit in
the grace of the Ultimate
and be silent.


October 24, 2014

Dear God,

I am grateful for this month of reflecting on my own worth. In doing so, I have been reminded of how important it is to me to speak with integrity. It reminds me of a conversation I had with a colleague recently about knowing when to allow myself to speak and when I need to breathe love into my being and remember the Sufi teaching about the questions I must answer before speaking. Is what I want to say truthful? Is it necessary? Is it kind? It parallels the teachings of Toltec Wisdom and don Miguel Ruiz about being impeccable with my word. When I speak with integrity, I am only saying what I mean and when I combine it with the Sufi teaching; I know that how I say what I mean also comes from an intent of love.

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